The other day I was waiting in a salon with Rachel while she got her nails done. I had been sitting on a two seater sofa at the front for a long time with lots of female customers coming and going, some sitting next to me, some standing if there was no more space. About an hour and a half in, the woman at reception and from what I gather, owner, was quite offended by me for not giving a woman my seat while she had been standing there for a couple of minutes with her daughter sitting next to me. She said that giving a lady a seat was “what a man does” and that it was called “CHIVALRY” because I’d so obviously never heard of the concept before, seeing as I did nothing. It really pissed me off that this was apparently expected of me and I can’t properly express why.
It seems like an outdated, sexist and somewhat self appraising concept.
I am generally polite, I hold open doors for people, no matter who they are, and obviously I understand the reasoning behind giving an elderly or pregnant person your seat and gestures of that nature. What I don’t see the reasoning behind is that I should give a seat away instantly to someone on the only prompt that this person is a woman.
Am I in the wrong?